So I warn you all this is a little bit of a vent! I am not an ungrateful or selfish person... Things have just really build up for me lately and I need to get them out!
I am really sick and tired of people who say they are your friend, but don't play the part. I feel like we are all adults now, this isn't high school. If someone doesn't like me or want to be friends- by all means don't talk to me. I guess the people you always thought you would be friends with drift away. Maybe with our lifestyle friends just come and go. Seems like the only consistent friends I have are other military spouses. I am also extremely sick of people who don't understand our lifestyle being judgmental. Like, oh well- your job can't be that hard.. I just don't think anyone should pass judgement until they share a similar situation- and no your husbands 2 week long business trip is not even close- and no I do not care if he only came home for a night and then left again, the point is you got to see him. No one can understand the hurt you feel when you are separated for very long periods of time. I not only am affected but so is my daughter. There is nothing worse in my eyes than trying to soothe my screaming daughter at 2 am because she woke up crying for daddy. It hurts me to see her hurt so much. I do not even enjoy hearing the, "well you knew what you were signing up for when you married him." You never know how a situation will be until you have already done it. Would I change it, absolutely not! It just gets hard, and I didn't realize it would be this hard.
I am also really sick of people who act like their life is perfect. No ones marriage is perfect, and no one is perfect. Its all for show and thats the bottom line. I have realized though, that life is not a popularity contest. Life is the journey to self- actualization, and self-happiness. Notice they both start with self- they also end with self. I believe that having so much going on in my life is helping me in an odd way. I am becoming tougher. The things that once embarrassed me do not anymore. I do what works, and I work my tail off. I do not care if I go outside mismatched and haven't done my hair, because I am becoming very comfortable in my own skin. I never had confidence before, but being forced into uncomfortable situations has really boosted me. As much as I hate the unknown and unfamiliar, it is good for me. It is turning into a bitter sweet type of uncomfortable. Its helping me, yet it really is uncomfortable for me. The unfamiliar has always been a tough one for me.
I think some people are never forced to grow up and tough things out- and maybe be a bit uncomfortable. I believe that when people act like their life is one big party, they are trying to cover something up- or they wouldn't tell everyone that would listen how perfect they are, or how much they attend church.
Last, but not least- housework is no fun, and I need a maid. :p haha. Had to say it!
Thats all for now,
Air Force Wife